Question

A participant has been estranged from her daughters for some time, what does she need to understand about this?

Answer

It is this understanding of being estranged from your child… To understand it in a number of different aspects. One being the contractual alignments that have been agreed upon. That is where you sit now. This … many understand but still have a very difficult time comprehending; Why would I make or why would THEY make or why would WE make contractual agreements that at some point during our expressive existence that we would separate and no longer have contact? This is one aspect. The answer will come.

The other is to understand the energy that you are expressing by remaining at a place in which you hold this understanding, this notion, this alignment, to be estranged from your child. That formulation of energy that surrounds you, that encompasses you—that, in itself, begins to broadcast out a barrier, a buffer, a zone around you that perpetuates. Like a pebble being dropped into a pond, it begins to reverberate across the surface and on and on and on it goes. If there is no shore, that ripple will continue.

Here, too, this energy that is being put towards this expression is rippling out. It will continue to ripple out as long as you hold to that understanding of energy of wondering, “Why? How could this have happened? What could have I done? Where should I go with this? I don’t understand how to clear this from me.” All of the expressions of understanding is still the same. It is creating this ripple out from the center of your being.

So, it is this understanding to, now, bring those ripples back. Allow yourself to reach out as far as you can with your energy and pull all of it back. Here. To the center.  Into the core, into the heart space. Understand that this contract that all have agreed on is one for growth, is one for strengthening. For, you see, as difficult as it is on your human framework, that you have separation from your children—no matter how it took place, no matter the circumstances—(yes, it may have been difficult and yes there may have been some understandings that neither agreed to have) that’s the human aspect. It is the human brain filling in the pieces.

In reality this alignment was purposeful. Not so much for their growth, but for your expansiveness in what you understand and how you perceive the world around you. When you perceive it through the ripples that have been cascading out, it always looks the same. There is something I could have done. There is something I should have done. I should have said THAT. Maybe I should have done THIS. Each one of those ripples comes from here. Each ripple is represented as a thought on out.

When you bring all of it back, here, into your heart space, now you can readdress it. And thank it. “Thank you for letting me have this agreement.” No matter how painful it is physically, emotionally, in my human framework, I give it the gratitude it deserves because this is a point for me to grow. A point for me to grow energetically, me to grow and expand in my heart-centeredness, with unconditional love towards all aspects of what took place.  When you do that, instead of it being a ripple of memories and thoughts going out, now you begin to radiate your true essence. The true divine self that is you. It takes the place of the ripples. You begin to shine, you being to glow, you begin to emanate a field of energy around you that changes all that is around you. The world around you. The encounters. And also, in doing so, you begin to change the vibrational connections you have with the children. That, in turn, begins their vibrational change.

There will be a point of reconciliation in the future. That is there. But the vibrational field needs to change here first.